I read several different blogs. Some are strictly DD lifestyle, some are D/s, some are TTWD, and some are like us, a little bit of everything. The one thing I have always appreciated and loved is that I can come here, share ideas, share my victories, sorrows, frustrations, and bumps in the road of life. Not always about this lifestyle, but about life.
We may not always agree with one another, but we do our best to honor and respect the choices that we make. I am glad to see that when there are concerns that someone may not be in the best situation, that it is addressed with kindness, and concern but addressed all the same. The discussions can some times get heated, but those of us who are truly walking the walk, do our best to treat one another with the respect our HOH type people would expect.
That being said, it never ceases to amaze me that there are people who come to our blogs, who seem to not agree with this lifestyle. They view spanking to be abusive, or punishment, or any facet of this life. It is not as if we solicit these folks to come and stay and criticize our life and poke fun. Disagreeing with something in the lifestyle YOU are living is very different than passing judgment on a way of life you have no interest in and are vehemently opposed. It is their right to not agree. It is their right to refuse to ever enter into this way of life.
That being said, it is also our right to live a lifestyle that we have agreed to, (many of us brought this to our husbands). We have the right to live within a structure that causes our relationship to grow and deepen and intimacy to flourish. We have the right to feel cherished and loved and protected.
I can speak to this personally. Having been in a relationship that was abusive, harmful and destructive, where it nearly destroyed my self esteem and left little of myself unscathed, what I have now is nothing like this. I am loved, cherished, protected, valued, and cared for.
When I stumble on a blog that I don't agree with, don't feel good about, but it's obvious that the person is living their life the way they want, I don't criticize, I simply move on to a blog that is more like minded. WE don't have to all agree. I expect folks not to agree with everything I say. I also don't expect to be made to feel like there is something wrong with me that I need to be saved from myself or my husband. Do I always like being spanked? Nope, I don't. However, I do love how this tool has helped our marriage be stronger and grow deeper into the intimacy I crave.