Many of us come to this life from very different walks of life, from different places. For example, just to name a few:
- Some have marriages or relationships that were DD from the very beginning and know no other way.
- Some enjoy erotic spanking and "kinky" sex along with having discipline in their relationship
- Some have always been submissive to their husbands but are just now incorporating discipline
- Some find NO sexual enjoyment from spanking or being disciplined
- Some started with a BDSM flavor and incorporated a more traditional relationship with the man being dominant and taking responsibility for leading the relationship
- Some women stumble on to the sites we all frequent to share their sorrow and pain from being abused and find that this lifestyle is not about being a door mat
Unfortunately, I am afraid that the anonynimity of being behind a screen gives the impression that we have the right to be unkind, cruel or disrespectful. For example, if one chooses to become a member of a social network whose main focus is a DD relationship, that is where it should remain. For exammple of you have joined the network of LDD and you are also heavily into BDSM, (which is ok and so not the point) I feel that you should focus on the DD part of your relationship. In other words, you should never make others feel uncomfortable in the LDD network with your BDSM flavor. And the reverse is true for others who only practice DD to do the same at a BDSM site.
There is lots of information out here. We all have opinions and insight. Instead of slinging mud or usurping others good works, or pointing fingers, placing blame or in my mother's words, "Stirring the POT", we should practice with others what we have agreed to with our mates. RESPECT. I don't have to agree with everything you say to respect you and find merit in things that fit my life and help me through difficult times. TTWD is hard enough, isolating enough without us isolating one another. And in the vein of this post, my opinion and a buck will buy you a cheap cup of Java SOMEWHERE... I just want t say that I appreciate everyone who has been such an encouragment to me and have been so open and honest and helped me not to feel so alone.